This is a weird thing for me to write about. You see, I’ve been spending the last 10 years running from my past. A friend said that I’m so dodgy about my old life, that I behave like someone who killed her entire family and moved out of state.
I’m that elusive about it.
But I didn’t kill anyone.
I was just an actor. Continue reading
“I hate that phrase — ‘to be completely honest.’ Why do people say that? As if I want you to lie to me.”
My friend was saying this as he and I were sitting at an outdoor bar that has swings instead of seats. We were trying to solve the problems of the world over beer and french fries. So why do people start off this way when they are about to admit something difficult about their lives? Continue reading
I found myself saying this last night during an online book club for my memoir You Look Like That Girl. I truly believe that when we stop fearing failure – incredible things can happen.
Failure is not the end of the story.
Failure is necessary. Continue reading
I was talking to a friend about how much I like to burn my writing.
I don’t burn it all the time, but when it’s something I feel like I need to release, it’s incredibly powerful cathartic ritual. That got me thinking about a wedding I attended two years ago.
I didn’t want to go to the wedding because I had nothing to wear.
It’s humiliating to admit that. It’s such a frivolous, stereotypical girl excuse. I’d been to a million weddings, but nothing quite like this. There were going to be a lot of people there and my social anxiety was running pretty high.
It was silly to think that I was worried looking out-of-place…with a bunch of people who take looking out-of-place very seriously. The wedding was done “burner-style” (think Burning Man) and grounded in the spirit of community, art and self-expression. Continue reading
I’m thrilled to be giving a talk tonight in Charlottesville, Virginia. The event is called Embrace Your Weird: from Anxiety to Authenticity and it’s based on the new book that I am writing. There is even a whole fancy Power Point thingy.
Many of us are afraid to talk about anxiety, depression and panic attacks – it’s about time we change that. This talk is a deeply personal exploration of mental health, told with compassion and humor. It’s a hopeful, entertaining and enlightening look at the root causes of anxiety, the results of the latest research and ideas for how to manage stress in your own life.
The event is free and open to the public, as part of Retreat Week at Ix Art Park. For more information and to RSVP, please click here.
And in case you were wondering, yes, I’m feeling very anxious about giving an anxiety talk. But I’m gonna to do it anyway.
I hope you all are having a wonderful weekend full of flags and barbecues and beer.
I also hope you are able to take a moment to acknowledge the meaning of the day – a reminder to think of those who died serving this country.
I always had respect for American military holidays, but they felt a little removed to me. I am Canadian, I don’t have family in the military and I’m not sure that I’ve ever spent much time with a veteran before.
Until last weekend.
I went to Texas to teach a writing class during a yoga retreat for vets. Expedition Balance is a non-profit organization based in Houston that helps veterans cope with post traumatic stress disorder. We gathered together and we did yoga, we wrote, played games, watched movies, made art and cooked dinner. We did outdoorsy Texas ranch things like fishing and horseback riding and hiking and sitting around a campfire. Continue reading
Photo credit: Louise Fell
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Thanks, as always, for all the support. I couldn’t do any of this without you.
Yeah, I know. That’s a big statement. Especially for me.
I can have some bandwagon tendencies. I jump on and ride along for about six months until a more interesting wagon rolls on by. For a while, thought I needed to buy a potter’s wheel, I looked for apartments to rent in South Africa and went through a phase where thought I really needed to be able to read hieroglyphs.
This is different. Yoga is a keeper. This is a lifelong practice for me and if I ever stop doing it, someone needs to kick my ass back on to the mat because I’ve temporarily lost my mind.
Yoga taught me how manage my panic attacks and anxiety, it has lessened my depression and made me a much happier person. It’s made my marriage stronger and has given me the supportive community that I’ve always wanted.
And then there is the physical stuff.