Hello, my name is Lisa Jakub and I used to be an actor (Or: The answer to “why did you quit acting?”)

This is a weird thing for me to write about. You see, I’ve been spending the last 10 years running from my past. A friend said that I’m so dodgy about my old life, that I behave like someone who killed her entire family and moved out of state.

I’m that elusive about it.

But I didn’t kill anyone.

I was just an actor. Continue reading

Yes, it’s weird, but I actually love it: public speaking

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I enjoy making intense faces and doing awkward things with my hands.

Even though it makes very little sense for someone who is 93% introverted with an unreasonably strong attachment to sweatpants – I actually love doing public events.

I adore meeting you all and discussing really important things:

How we decide to define success for ourselves.
How we deal with anxiety/depression/panic attacks and ditch the stigma.
How we rewrite the script for our lives and find some joy even in the midst of chaos.
Why I feel the need to wear Chuck Taylors to even the fanciest of events.

I still get nervous every time, but what helps is the realization that I’m not up there just blabbering on about myself. I’m talking about ALL OF US. The things we all go through and the ways we can realize that we are not alone.

I’ve done talks for high schools, colleges, companies, and conferences and I’m currently booking speaking engagements for 2017. For more information about having me come visit, please check the speaking events section. You can see clips from my previous talks, read testimonials, download my speaking kit and submit a request.

Looking forward to meeting you!

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I also have a great affection for PowerPoint slides featuring cartoons

The sergeant and the wren: it’s about the little things

My badge reads:

Lisa: experienced cat socializer

It has paw print stickers all over it.

I expected to walk dogs when I started volunteering once a week at the no-kill shelter. I saw myself as firmly Team Dog. But they needed help with the cats so I went to help with the cats.

I soon found that I had a knack with the…um…”difficult” cats. The ones who take a chunk out of your arm if you make eye contact. The abused, traumatized, aggressive felines. For some reason, I can touch the cats no one else can get near. I can take the wild-eyed maniacs and turn them into the cuddly lap sitters that everyone wants to take home.

I don’t have very many valuable skills – but I am the Asshole Cat Whisperer. Continue reading

Perspective shift: a weekend with history

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At the Martin Luther King, Jr memorial in Washington, DC

A couple of months ago I went to Washington, D.C. with my husband. It was his birthday and we spent the weekend eating too much, drinking over-priced cocktails and walking around the city.

I’m Canadian but I have lived in the US for the last twenty years and I now have my American citizenship as well. I love this country, and I see the problems. And the problems have been overwhelming me lately. The divisiveness, the name-calling, the hatred and bigotry. I get deflated and anxious. I get sad and frustrated. I talk about moving back to Canada.

But while in D.C. we went to monuments and memorials: Lincoln, Martin Luther King, Jr., Roosevelt, WW II, Vietnam – and something occurred to me:

As a country, we have been through some serious shit.

Are things bad now?

Yes.

Have they been worse before?

Yes.

That doesn’t negate what is happening right now, but what it does mean is that we can do this. We were made to deal with hard things. We are strong and resilient. We were made to overcome and heal and work together to become better. This is true whether we’re talking about the political climate or global terrorism or our own personal struggles with anxiety or depression.

It’s easy to throw up our hands and assume that it’s all just going to hell. But apathy is the easy way out. We might go through hell — but we’re sure as hell going to keep walking until we get somewhere better.

We’re all in this together, so let’s be radically kind and endlessly courageous.

with love,

~L

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We recently passed the twenty-year anniversary of the day my husband and I met. Our eyes met across a room and I knew immediately that I would spend the rest of my life with him.

Except that’s not at all what happened.

Actually, if you ask him about the evening we met, he’ll tell you that his first impression of me was that I looked very young and very scared. (He’s right. I was 17, and we were out with a bunch of people at a crowded movie opening. See: introvert.)

And if you ask me about the night we met? I’ll feel like a big jerk as I’ll be compelled to admit that I don’t remember meeting him. Continue reading

Meditation for People Who Can’t Meditate: an audio guide

“Meditation suffers from a towering PR problem.”

-Dan Harris, 10% Happier

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People tell me all the time that they can’t meditate — they tried it and their minds are spinning wildly and they can’t stop their thoughts.

I’m sorry to break this to you because I’m sure you are an absolutely delightful person: but your brain is not special. It’s not.

That is what everyone’s brain does. It’s your brain’s job to always look for problems. That’s how it has kept you alive.

Saying you can’t meditate because you can’t stop your thoughts is like saying you can’t play basketball because you aren’t a unicorn. And of course you are not a unicorn and of course you can’t stop your thoughts.

Luckily, we’re not trying to stop our thoughts when we meditate. We’re just trying to shift our relationship with them and realize those manic thoughts don’t have to run our whole damn lives. Continue reading

New online memoir writing class starting soon!

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Hey all,

I’m starting up my online writing class again and I would love for you to join me! The class is starting to fill up already, so I wanted to make sure that you guys had a chance to sign up if you were interested.

This class is for everyone –  from those with no writing experience to professional writers. We’ll read great work, workshop pieces, explore ways to get the most from your creative process and have a super fun time. I’ll give you feedback and help you shape your story. (Don’t worry, I’m Canadian, so I’m always really nice about it.) It’s a relaxed environment where we all learn from each other. Best of all, you’ll finally get your story down on paper.

The class will be held ONLINE – seven Sunday afternoons, 12–2 p.m. PST/3-5pm Eastern. You log on wherever you have an internet connection and a webcam – then, it looks like the Brady Bunch! We can all see each other, which creates a lovely sense of community. (Click here to see a demo of what a class looks like.) Continue reading