Hello, my name is Lisa Jakub and I used to be an actor (Or: The answer to “why did you quit acting?”)

This is a weird thing for me to write about. You see, I’ve been spending the last 10 years running from my past. A friend said that I’m so dodgy about my old life, that I behave like someone who killed her entire family and moved out of state.

I’m that elusive about it.

But I didn’t kill anyone.

I was just an actor. Continue reading

10 Days Later: thoughts on Charlottesville, from Charlottesville

Many of you know that I live in Charlottesville, VA, and I was there at the recent counter-protest. It’s the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing on my mind at night.

So I wanted to tell you a bit about my personal experience there, and what it all means to me.

For those of us who live in Charlottesville and who were part of the resistance, this doesn’t go away when the news cycle moves on.

A girlfriend of mine was punched in the face by a white supremacist. Another friend was right next to the car that drove into the crowd and is now struggling with PTSD. I am fundamentally changed by this, but that’s a good thing. I hope you’ll be fundamentally changed with me.

And PS, I’m pretty proud that I got through this video and only cried once.

Links:

Vice News Documentary – Charlottesville: Race and Terror

Donate to the NAACP Charlottesville

Donate to Southern Poverty Law Center

Help the victims of violence by donating to Unity C-ville’s GoFundMe page

Resistbot-contact your representatives and send them letters via text (for those of us who despise making phone calls!)

Writing & Wellness Yoga Retreat in Boone, NC!

Join me for a Writing & Wellness Yoga Retreat at the Art of Living Retreat Center in Boone, N.C. Nov. 2 – 5th, 2017!

You already know me, but you’ll also get to know my retreat co-leader, the amazing Cecily Armstrong! Cecily’s trainings span decades and explore all facets of the mind, body, and spirit. She has a Health Coach Certification from the Integrative Institute of Nutrition and is a graduate of the Barbara Brennan School of Healing. Cecily has been teaching yoga for twenty years and is a facilitator at the Hero’s Journey.

Join both of us for a fun, restorative and empowering retreat exploring various aspects of emotional and physical wellness.

The retreat will include:

writing exercises to understand anxiety & the inner critic

nutrition talks – examining both physical and emotional nourishment

discussions on purpose, connection, and authentic power

yoga, meditation, and pranayama

healthy Ayurvedic meals (all included in the registration price)

free time at the beautiful retreat center – massage, pottery, hiking

You’ll return home with tools to help you live a more happy, healthy, vibrant life. And we’ll have a whole bunch of fun, too! This retreat is open to everyone. No writing or yoga experience necessary.

Tuition includes accommodation and meals for 4 days/3 nights:  starting at $677   *$50 off for early birds registering before September 1st!

Get more information and register at: artoflivingretreatcenter.org

And please let me know if you have any questions! Hope to see you in North Carolina!

 

Interim Time: now what?

Transition. It’s supposed to be a word that is exciting, full of newness and opportunity. But more often, it’s just scary.

For the past eighteen months, I’ve had my head down, writing Not Just Me, my new book about anxiety and depression. It’s been a wonderful experience and is incredibly meaningful to me.

But the book that has been the center of my universe is pretty much done.

I feel like I just got fired.

Now that I’ve lifted my head from the page and I’m looking around, I’m asking myself that question that is full of possibility and uncertainty.

Now what? Continue reading

No is a complete sentence

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I did a keynote speech at The Lady Project Summit recently and Avery and Erica made a meme of it. Which flatters me beyond belief. I LOVE being a meme.

It captures something that I said during the Q&A section of my talk when a woman in the audience asked me about finding balance. Dozens of heads around her nodded as if they were equally baffled by this idea of how to have a balanced life while still having clean clothes, a side-hustle, fulfilling relationships and a strong core.

Like many people, I have a hard time saying no. There are a million prettier ways to say this, but the reason I struggle to say no comes down to one thing: Continue reading

Speaking event in Northern Virginia!

Hey Northern Virginia/DC people!

I’ll be doing a public event tomorrow night and I’d love to see you there!

May 10th, 7 pm to 9 pm in Clifton, VA. And I heard there might even be wine…

The talk will be about the things that most of us are afraid to talk about – anxiety and depression. I’ll share my experiences with those issues and the ways that they have impacted my life. I’ll talk about my time working as an actor, and the decisions that led to leaving my career to find something that felt more authentic. We’ll look at the causes of anxiety, the latest research on what helps those of us who struggle and we’ll laugh a lot –because if we can’t laugh at our anxiety, we really are screwed.

We’ll have plenty of time for Q&A and I’ll have my memoir You Look Like That Girl for purchase and signing.

Please purchase tickets through this link – I’ll see you there!

Revisiting: Unpopular authenticity: so…you don’t have kids?

*I’m working hard on my new book and finding myself with little time for new blog posts. I decided to bring back some older posts, that you might have missed… Hope you enjoy!

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I was shamed by a nine-year-old the other day.

She stood there, hands on hips, glaring up at me. She’d just asked me if I had kids. I told her that I did not.

“Why?”

“I never felt that was the right choice for me.”

She told me that my life was boring and sad.

It was actually pretty cute. Continue reading

Revisited – Recipe for happiness: squash the expectations

*I’m working hard on my new book and finding myself with little time for new blog posts. I decided to bring back some older posts, that you might have missed… Hope you enjoy!

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This is apparently the mathematical breakdown of what it means to be happy.
I totally agree, don’t you?

Actually, my idea of happiness doesn’t ever include exponents, but what this equation means is totally fantastic.

There was recently an article in The Atlantic that offers this equation and says that happiness doesn’t depend on how things are going. It depends on whether things are going better or worse than you thought they would.

Happiness is all about expectations. 

This is entirely true in my experience. My life used to go like this: Continue reading