Recently, I’ve had a bunch of requests for autographs – which is very kind and sweet and I’m flattered.
I’ve been tip-toeing around this and trying to figure out how to not hurt anyone’s feelings (and how not to sound like a jackass) — but I’ve decided to come clean.
Here’s the deal:
Signing autographs makes me wildly uncomfortable.
Because when I sign an autograph, it puts me back into this little actor box that just doesn’t fit me anymore. It makes me the “celebrity” and the other person is the “fan” and that just feels icky. I think we are both much more than those narrow parameters.
And really, what is the point? Does anyone actually know what my signature looks like? If my husband/friend/mailman scribbled “Best Wishes, Lisa Jakub” on an index card, would anybody know the difference? As long as they got the spelling right, probably not.
Even if I did sign it, so what?
It makes me feel creepy that someone would value something just because, what, I wrote on it? We haven’t established any kind of connection or relationship. I don’t get to know anything about you, like where you grew up, or if you are a dog person or a cat person. And you don’t know anything more about me, except that my Ls are very loopy.
So, I’m not going to do autographs. But if you want to email me or communicate through Facebook or Twitter, I always do my very best to respond. (It just might take me a little while.) Instead of doing the autograph thing, let’s have a conversation about something like two normal people.
I hope that’s cool with you guys.
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