At the Martin Luther King, Jr memorial in Washington, DC
A couple of months ago I went to Washington, D.C. with my husband. It was his birthday and we spent the weekend eating too much, drinking over-priced cocktails and walking around the city.
I’m Canadian but I have lived in the US for the last twenty years and I now have my American citizenship as well. I love this country, and I see the problems. And the problems have been overwhelming me lately. The divisiveness, the name-calling, the hatred and bigotry. I get deflated and anxious. I get sad and frustrated. I talk about moving back to Canada. Continue reading
Hey, New Yorkers! I’ll be doing a public event at Mohawk College in Utica on October 27th and I’d love to see you there.
I’ll be talking about my experience with mood disorders and the tools that help make life a little easier as an introvert who struggles with anxiety, depression, and a panic disorder.
But it’s gonna be FUN, I promise!
You can get tickets here.
“Meditation suffers from a towering PR problem.”
-Dan Harris, 10% Happier
People tell me all the time that they can’t meditate — they tried it and their minds are spinning wildly and they can’t stop their thoughts.
I’m sorry to break this to you because I’m sure you are an absolutely delightful person: but your brain is not special. It’s not.
That is what everyone’s brain does. It’s your brain’s job to always look for problems. That’s how it has kept you alive.
Saying you can’t meditate because you can’t stop your thoughts is like saying you can’t play basketball because you aren’t a unicorn. Of course you are not a unicorn and of course you can’t stop your thoughts.
Luckily, we’re not trying to stop our thoughts when we meditate. We’re just trying to shift our relationship with them and realize those manic thoughts don’t have to run our whole damn lives. Continue reading
I wanted to share this clip from a talk I did in June – all about anxiety, depression and panic attacks. Even though I don’t entirely love living with these things – I love talking about this stuff. It makes me feel less alone, it reduces the social stigma around mental health and above all, it reminds me that healing is possible when we can connect and laugh and say to each other oh my God, I totally know what you mean.
Hope you enjoy this short clip. (I have been doing more talks lately, so I should have more clips to share soon.) And if you’re interested in having me come talk at your school, organization or conference – you can see my speaking kit here!
I’m thrilled to be giving a talk tonight in Charlottesville, Virginia. The event is called Embrace Your Weird: from Anxiety to Authenticity and it’s based on the new book that I am writing. There is even a whole fancy Power Point thingy.
Many of us are afraid to talk about anxiety, depression and panic attacks – it’s about time we change that. This talk is a deeply personal exploration of mental health, told with compassion and humor. It’s a hopeful, entertaining and enlightening look at the root causes of anxiety, the results of the latest research and ideas for how to manage stress in your own life.
The event is free and open to the public, as part of Retreat Week at Ix Art Park. For more information and to RSVP, please click here.
And in case you were wondering, yes, I’m feeling very anxious about giving an anxiety talk. But I’m gonna to do it anyway.
Yeah, I know. That’s a big statement. Especially for me.
I can have some bandwagon tendencies. I jump on and ride along for about six months until a more interesting wagon rolls on by. For a while, thought I needed to buy a potter’s wheel, I looked for apartments to rent in South Africa and went through a phase where thought I really needed to be able to read hieroglyphs.
This is different. Yoga is a keeper. This is a lifelong practice for me and if I ever stop doing it, someone needs to kick my ass back on to the mat because I’ve temporarily lost my mind.
Yoga taught me how manage my panic attacks and anxiety, it has lessened my depression and made me a much happier person. It’s made my marriage stronger and has given me the supportive community that I’ve always wanted.
And then there is the physical stuff.
There are a bunch of people over there and they’re going to make me do the small talk, I just know it…
I am a person who gets easily overwhelmed by the world.
The snap of the shampoo bottle lid is too loud and startles me every time so I have to unscrew the lid which takes forever and spills shampoo everywhere. Last Thanksgiving I read a book about the sinking of the Lusitania in 1915 and my dismay almost ruined our entire holiday. We have dimmers in every room of our house because anything over 40 watts causes my heart to race. I was recently invited to a pretty cool event – I had to turn it down, mostly because there would be too many people there.
I’m what is known as a highly-sensitive person (HSP) which means that my nervous system processes sensory data more deeply than most other people. I’m also an introvert with an anxiety disorder. It’s the ultimate awkward trifecta.
And I always thought it was just me who had six fewer layers of skin than everyone else.
But there are actually a bunch of us. We’re just not talking about it. Continue reading